Back When I Was Younger, It Seemed To Me That Lying Was A Necessary Evil, Because It Spared You From Punishment

"Back When I Was Younger, It Seemed To Me That Lying Was A Necessary Evil,
Because It Spared You From Punishment."

When you did something that larger, stronger adults disapproved of, the consequence was you were punished.
Even if you had good reasons for doing what you did, the consequence was punishment.
An unacceptable act had 2 possibilities : lie or be punished.
Is it any wonder so many of us become liars from a very young age.

Human beings have a very powerful survival instinct.
Punishment is something that our whole being cries out against.
If we are punished for doing something that felt important to us,
what message are we sent?
It is that irregardless of what's important to us, if we do something that larger, stronger people consider unacceptable, we will be punished.
And we wonder why people walk around with hunted looks in their eyes.
When we look at each other we are always wondering :
"Is this person going to hurt me?..."
What a horrible inheritance.

Solution

When I have kids I will tell them I always want the truth.
Even if it's to say, "Dad. I think you're getting fat, bald, and ugly."
I'm an adult.
Kids need mature human beings to guide them,
ones who understand that we speak the truth, never out of maliciousness,
but because there is something powerful inside we need to express.

It's about what you believe is human nature.
I believe human beings are naturally noble, good creatures and that when we say hurtful things,
it is because we are in pain ourselves.

When we do something which is unwanted,
it is because there is something important inside that is trying to be expressed.

Conclusion

If we keep punishing the truth, we will continue to live in a world of lies.