What Prevents People From Asking For Help?

It is a philosophy of self-sufficiency, of self-sustainability, of not needing to depend on others which is inculcated into us since we are children.
To ask for help is a sign of weakness.
To need help is a sign that you can't take care of yourself.
According to this philosophy, people raised not to ask for help will learn to do things for themselves and become the self-sufficient models of independence and productivity our competition focused society prizes.
According to this philosophy, Human Nature is one of a natural inclination to sloth, laziness, and procrastination, and discipline and tough love are necessary to harden a person for the pains of a hard world.

But, when people need help, they find it agony to ask for it, because it contradicts everything they have been taught.
So, many people simply do not ask for help, and instead choose to suffer silently and guiltily in repentance and punishment for their inability to be self-sufficient.

This is "not" the Life Coaching philosophy.
The Life Coaching philosophy is that Human Nature is one of being noble, hard-working, and curious and that people seek independence when they are confident.
The Life Coaching philosophy is dedicated to inspiring that confidence in people, done with the absolute certainty that when a person no longer needs help, they will stand on their own feet and strike out on their own.

When the people helping you say,
"We know, with absolute certainty, that when you are ready, you will do amazing things, and we are here to prove to you that you are capable of doing those amazing things."
how can people do anything but become strong, confident and independent "minus" all the guilt and fear of being "needy".

Why I've Isolated Myself My Whole Life

"I Have Always Isolated Myself.
Why?
Because From A Young Age It Was Clear To Me This World Wasn't Working.
I Never Felt Like I Fit In.
I Never Felt Like I Belonged.
I Believed That In Order For Me To Find The Solutions Which Would Fix This World,
I Needed To Distance Myself From It,
To Put The World In Perspective."

"I Believed That By Being In Isolation, I Could Figure Out How To Fix The World,
And When I Had Figured It Out,
I Would Be Recognized, Admired And Appreciated For My Contribution.
Then I Could Become Part Of The World Again."

"I Felt,
'Somebody Has To Fix This World, And I Accept The Unspoken Responsibility,
Because Nobody Else Will,
Everybody Else Is To Busy Trying To Make Life Good For Themselves And Their Friends.' "

"I Mixed Nobility With My Feelings Of Not Fitting In And Shaped It Into A Resolve To Change The World Into A More Loving, Accepting And Just One.
One Where I Wouldn't Feel So Lonely..."

I've...changed over the years, though not too much...no. not too much...

What Often Angers Me Is That I Was Brought Into A Confused And Often Hostile World I Was Brought Into Against My Will

"What Often Angers Me Is That I Was Brought Into A Confused And Often Hostile World Against My Will."

But, then the feeling passes, I feel hopeful, and I am not angry anymore.

I just know I have to do everything I can to make this a world where the next generation never has to go through those kinds of feelings of anger and regret.
The younger me (who I've lost) deserved that.
All young ones deserve that.

When You Are Looking For Help From Others And You Cannot Find Any, Know This,

"When You Are Looking For Help From Others And You Cannot Find Any, Know This,
It Is Because There Are Very Few People Well Enough To Be Able To Truly Help You."

Capitalism drains Humanity of its very soul.
How can half-dead people help support each other with their broken and mangled beings?

So, if you're not willing to end your life,

"Endure. In Enduring The Pain You Will Become Stronger, And You Will Become A Person Able To Support Others, Just As You Once Needed To Be Supported."

This sounds great, but many people are lost in such a process.
The real solution is, as always, to express our pain and sadnesses, truly and openly.

...of course...in this society, at this stage of human evolution,
still,
easier said then done.

Unhealthy People Cannot Help Unhealthy People Become Healthy

"Unhealthy People Cannot Help Unhealthy People Become Healthy."

To sum up our society, and our poor species.

All the pent-up pain and sadness needs to be released,
otherwise we are all the walking wounded trying to lean on each other,
with all of us barely standing up as it is.

I Always Prefer Honesty, Even If It's Painful To Hear

"I Always Prefer Honesty, Even If It's Painful To Hear."

For how else are you supposed to know what a person genuinely feels or thinks?
Living a lie is excessively painful.

I Feel Like I Am Hemorrhaging Life

"I Feel Like I Am Hemorrhaging Life."

Don't let this happen to you.
If your life is not what you want it to be,
if you haven't reached your goals in life,
or even feel that you are making much progress towards them,
seek help and guidance.

How much time,
How much life,
are you willing to let pass you by before you get help,
as much help as you possibly need,
and start living a life you can smile in.

I have personally spent far too much of my life trying to move forward on my own,
because I thought that a person was responsible for their own life,
that they shouldn't impose on others.

Well...what you have to do is find people who want to help,
and for whom helping is "not" an imposition.

They're called : counselors and psychologists.
And let's not forget the wonder of the self-help group.

It's just very hard to get help from people who are not in the helping frame of mind.
You do not ask a tiger to be a house cat.
It is difficult to ask somebody who is not in the mindset of helping to help.
This is not bad,
This is a person being true to their truth.

But, trust me, on the asking for help.
Ask yourself,
"How much life am I willing to let pass me by before I desist struggling on my own, and get help, as much help as I possibly need, to make a life I delight living in?"

Don't be like me.
Don't wait.

I Cannot Be Truly Happy Until I Know That Everyone Is Happy

"I Cannot Be Truly Happy Until I Know That Everyone Is Happy." - David Julio Wang